5 LEADERSHIP LESSONS I LEARNED FROM MY FAMOUS FRIENDS

At my recent Women’s Leadership Conference, I shared with my attendees that one of the biggest things I pay my mentors for is to learn what not to do. I want to know their biggest mistakes and their biggest lessons. Why? So I can avoid them. Makes sense, right?

In business and in the journey of leadership, we are all going to make mistakes. That is how we learn. And I can tell you from personal experience some are more financially painful (over the years, I’ve had some doozies!) and some are more emotionally painful than others.

So one of the questions I asked each of my friends for our upcoming Extraordinary Women Leading From the Telesummit is, what their biggest leadership lessons and mistakes were.

While there are too many to list here, which is why we have two full weeks dedicated to teaching you, here are a few of the highlights. Enjoy!

Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave. – Mary Tyler Moore

Rising to the top is simple…but it isn’t always pretty and it isn’t always easy. I can tell you from personal experience that I don’t just sit around meditating and reading all day and watch the millions roll in while Oprah is banging down my door to speak to me and help me spread my message. Running a successful business and leading a movement is a lot of work. Over the years, I have absolutely made my fair share of costly (in the millions) and painful (I’ve shed a bucket or two of tears) mistakes as I have built my business and become known as a thought leader. I am not alone and neither are you.

While booking my upcoming telesummit Extraordinary Women Leading From the Telesummit I spoke to a group of my favorite leading ladies candidly about the behind the scenes of the rise to the top. Lots of us learned the same lessons. I hope by me sharing these, you can use them to your advantage. After all, the world needs your genius now.

Lesson #1 Comparing Yourself To Others Is a Bad Idea

One of the things I have learned in yoga is to keep my eyes on my own mat. It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. Everyone’s bodies are different and everyone is in a different place in their journey. Iyanla Vanzant says that “Comparing yourself to others is an act of violence against your authentic self.” And I couldn’t agree more. Everyone is born with a unique set of talents and gifts. You are in the perfect place in your journey right now. Keep your eyes on your own mat.

Lesson #2 Trying to Be Someone Else Never Works Out

Sometimes when we are trying to find our own way, we take the concept of modeling others a bit too far. We try to become our parent, our mentor or simply the person we think that the world wants us to be. Modeling success paradigms and strategies is smart. Trying to become someone else never works out. Each of the ladies I spoke with said that the minute they just relaxed and let their own soul shine is the minute that the world opened up to them. Do YOU…fully, unabashedly and most of all unapologetically.

Lesson #3 Personal Development is The Root of All Success

The biggest tip that all my friends said that was the biggest catalyst to their success is their commitment to their own personal development. They consistently invest time, money and energy into themselves and their own learning. They work with mentors and they aren’t afraid to ask for help. In fact, they pay big money to have people help them along the way. Only you can take this journey, but you can’t do it alone.

Lesson #4 Listen to Your Intuition (Not Your Ego)

We are all born with a fantastic internal guidance system. The problem is that when you aren’t connected to your spiritual self, you can’t hear it or feel it. And if you are more aligned with your ego (fear, doubt, worry) than you are with your spirit, you will never hear it because that is the ego’s job – to keep you safe (AKA stuck). These ladies learned – often the hard way – that the key to success is to override your ego and go forth in faith. Always do a gut check.

Lesson #5 Don’t Waste Your Energy Focused On Negativity

The more you stand in your light, the more others will try to pull you into their darkness. It is the unfortunate way of the human condition. Even Mother Theresa and Oprah have haters. Don’t expend your precious energy attempting to win over the haters or sharing your unique gifts and talents with people really do not want to be helped. You are a precious being with a tremendous gift, not the jackass whisperer. Let them have their journey. It’s not about you anyway.

We hope you enjoyed these lessons and we would love to hear your thoughts! Pop on over to my facebook page or leave a comment on my blog. What are your biggest lessons?

Want to learn more from these amazing ladies? Register now for the Extraordinary Women Leading from the Soul Telesummit happening on March 4 – March 15, 2015.

Love is definitely in the air…(and not just for couples.)

Everyone knows that love is a beautiful thing. We love to give it and we love to receive it. (In fact yesterday my honey pleasantly surprised me with a love letter and dozen long stem roses….awwwww! He’s a keeper.) But how often do we actually take the time to give it to ourselves? Take yesterday for example. domain webhosting . We usually think of Valentine’s Day as the day for romance with our significant other. But how often do we think of loving ourselves?

Remember in my email the other day when I said that I’ve made self-care part of my job description? Well, part of self-care is practicing love and kindness toward not just others – but towards ourselves.

Love is a frequency, a vibration, it’s WHO we are. It takes conscious choice to generate love within ourselves, so part of practicing self-care is to practice getting into the frequency of love every day! And we’ve all heard that the best way to get into the spirit of love is to practice an attitude of gratitude, right?

So yesterday I made a list of things I love in my life right now…

Want to see the list? Check it out here on my blog (and make sure you subscribe while you are there!)

  • myself (not from a place of ego – but really, truly being in love with me)
  • my honey
  • my puppies
  • my friends
  • my community (yes, that means YOU! My clients, my followers and fans who honor my work in the world)
  • my AMAZING healer Shanti Pincock, Ph.D
  • my fantastic team
  • all the extraordinary women leaders in the world
  • really – all the positive, loving people who lift me up into my light
  • yoga (especially candlelight yoga)
  • my new patio that I designed as a sanctuary for me to connect
  • juicing
  • crockpot cooking
  • massages
  • good health
  • being organized

After you check it out, I want to hear from you! Share your list of things you love and/or are grateful for on our Facebook page here or on our blog…

There is only one you…Be Extraordinary ™,

P.S. Did you watch the video I sent you on Wednesday? The one where I tell you all about BIG… GIANT…. COLLABORATION we’re having soon – the one with extraordinary and successful women leaders who are committed to changing the planet…think celebrities, best-selling authors, television personalities. Can’t wait to tell you all about it!

Head over here to watch the sneak peak…

Did you hear about my extreme self-care journey (and Big News!)

How are you? I want to share an exclusive sneak peak with you about something super exciting coming up very soon. But first, let’s talk about something that keeps showing up not just in my life, but also in the lives of a lot of my coaching clients and other leaders I’ve been talking with:

Self-Care.

Guilt free… Top Priority… Unabashed Self-Care.

As you know, the Women’s Leadership Conference was a little over a week ago. If you’ve been following me on Facebook, you saw my “Extreme Self-Care” journey leading up the conference. It’s something I’ve been focusing on more in my life in general.

In fact it – was a very HOT topic on our Women’s Leadership Academy call this week too. So I know that I’m not the only one out there who finds it a priority to focus on taking great care of myself.

What I’m hearing from a lot of women leaders is that we have a tendency to focus so much on helping others (kids, family, spouses, friends, team, the dog, the mailman – really anyone) that we tend to neglect the most important person in our lives: Ourselves. We put off exercising, eating well, meditating, sleeping, taking time off – and, yes, even taking a shower every day. (You know you’ve done the PJ day too!)

The ironic thing is that in order to be a better, stronger leader, taking care of YOU is absolutely VITAL. I have even made self-care part of my job description. So, with Valentines Day coming up tomorrow, I encourage you to make a date with yourself. Go to a yoga class. Get a spa service. Put meditating on your calendar just as you would a client appointment. Take a nap – no one is going to perish while you snooze peacefully for an hour. Start making these things a priority in your life, and then join the Extreme Self Care conversation over on our Facebook page and share how you practice self-care.

Now on to your exclusive sneak peak. Watch the video below where I tell you all about it…

We are super excited about it so stay tuned! Hint Hint: It is a – BIG… GIANT…. COLLABORATION – with extraordinary and successful women leaders who are committed to changing the planet…think celebrities, best-selling authors, television personalities. Can’t wait to tell you all about it!

There is only one you…Be Extraordinary ™,

Lost Generation? Or New Generation of Leaders?

Over 50% of the world’s population is under 30 years old. Today’s generation is faced with new challenges, new issues and new opportunities.

As leaders, it’s our responsibility to make a shift. This up and coming generation is a huge part of that shift.

Watch the inspiring video below that Michael Drew presented at the 2013 Women’s Leadership Conference:

As Hilary Clinton said, “We all need to be part of the discussion, if we’re going to be part of the solution.” Whether you like her or not, she’s right.

Take part in the discussion and share your thoughts below on where you think our future is headed and how you can take part in the solution.

The Connection Between Yoga and Leadership

During an evening bonus session of the Women’s Leadership Conference, Kelly O’Neil had her personal yoga instructor share lessons from yoga and how they tie into being the best leader you can be.

Watch the video below for a quick preview of what she said…

Some of the lessons taught were:

  • Breathe because every time you can come back to your breathe you ground yourself.
  • Let go of judgement (of yourself and others)
  • Practice kindness
  • Letting go of competition, especially competition.
  • On this note, Kelly quoted, Iyanla Vanzant:

    “Comparing yourself to others is an act of violence against your authentic self. The God in you has no comparison. The same is true of others.”

    Do you practice yoga? What ways have you found yoga to relate to your life and business?

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